As the new year approaches, I find myself feeling that ingrained expectation to make resolutions and start to better myself. There are the obvious ones: lose weight, start an exercise regimen, save “x” amount of dollars each month in a vacation fund, stop eating fast food… When I inevitably fail to keep my resolutions, I end up feeling down and as if I’ve somehow “ruined” my year by not being my best.
Last year I decided I would make goals for myself, rather than resolutions. Achievable goals. Something to work toward. Of course, I still want to lose weight and save “x” amount of dollars each month, but by making these other goals, I hope to be my best self and let those other wishes trickle easily into my routines. So I’ve come up with 8 goals to spread out through the year. I will write them down in checklist form, and post them in a visible spot in my home to keep me accountable. Here they are:
- Go on a “special” family outing once a month: maybe it’s a trip to the museum, ice cream at a funky shop, or even story time at the library. Something “special” doesn’t have to be pricey – just something you don’t normally get to do as an entire family.
- Go on a date once a month: again, this doesn’t have to be pricey. Maybe you don’t even need a babysitter – working parents could take a half day for a movie and drinks, or maybe have another couple watch your kids and then you return the favor the following week. It’s important to have time as a couple – away from the house!
- Try a new recipe once a month: it’s so easy to get in a rut – mix it up!
- Go on a “friend date” once a month: brunch with the gals, a quick coffee with a pal you don’t see often…
- Go on a “me” date once a month: yes, solo trips to Target can feel like a vacation in itself, but at least add in browsing at a bookstore or a quick mani/pedi. It’s too easy to forget about your own needs as a parent.
- Schedule and make all of those important appointments: pediatrician, general practitioner, gyno, dentist, vet, eye doctor, making a will, renew your driver’s license… my list seems never-ending. If you take the time to make one of each of these appointments per month, you won’t have them looming over you.
- Finish a home project from “the list” each month: ugh, the never-ending home project list – go through clothes, clean out pantry/fridge/car/makeup, decorate living spaces, replace old photos in frames, get the air ducts cleaned out, etc. Pick one each month and complete it.
- Do a deep clean of one room per month: I mean really get in there. So clean you wouldn’t even bat an eye
whenif your kid eats off the floorany surface of it.